No, not a dead person’s spirit or soul that can appear to the living. My friend’s ghost is still very much present. Yet a few years back, they made the decision to sever our personal connection by abruptly and mysteriously ceasing all contact.
Ironically, my now-final ghost’s words to me were, “Keep in touch.” I made multiple attempts, but I got no response.
I posed the following query in my final direct message: “Are the channels of contact open or should I give up trying?” Further stillness and the phrase “seen,” which was social media’s automated way of telling me I had been ghosted, were my responses.
I last experienced “seen” as a sensation. I felt abandoned and forgotten. I last experienced “seen” as a sensation. I felt abandoned and forgotten. I had an overwhelming sense of someone passing very unexpectedly, leaving me with so many unanswered questions: How did they disappear? Are they fine? Do they have a crisis right now? Should I make contact once more? what went wrong with me? Is this actually taking place? Do I remember this individual well? Why did they leave me behind? Was I offensive to them? Why is this feeling so awful? Are I insane?
I was on an emotional rollercoaster that made me doubt everything, including my value as a person.
Ghosting is viewed as an emotional abuse tactic by certain mental health specialists. Others disagree, claiming that people choose to stonewall because they lack the necessary communication skill an honest exchange of words. All of these and many other ghosting explanations could be accurate. I don’t intend to demonize, defend, or psychoanalyze ghosts in any way. In the case that you’ve been ghosted, I’m here to share what I’ve learnt from my experience in the hopes that it will be useful to you.
In the end, it’s important that you accept and love yourself, regardless of how other people behave. Below is more information about my experience and the measures I took to accomplish that.
